I was watching Dr. Phil earlier today. He is considered to be a smart man, and I admit it, I can quote some of his best advice (my favourite? “Every Relationship Needs a Hero!”). He is doing a show on teen pregnancy and teens that want babies (the later is a whole other pet peeve I have and needs a whole other post). Dr. Phil had a young teenage girl on his show who was devastated that she got pregnant. She was 14, the father of the baby wanted NOTHING to do with her or the baby, and her dad wasn’t talking to her because he was so disappointed. She was in tears and I kept thinking (and hoping) Dr. Phil would suggest that maybe adoption was an option for the situation, but sadly he didn’t. I was screaming in my mind, “THINK ABOUT ADOPTION!!!” and It makes me wonder why this isn’t a more “popular” option.
Here in England it is virtually unheard of as an option. Abortion is the general choice for most(made popular by a variety of prime time television shows), or to have the baby and raise it (the government here seems to reward that choice). But what about adoption??
I guess this option holds a special place in my heart as I’ve been deeply involved with a most courageous friend who experienced the situation. Going through that for me was difficult, but I cant imagine how it was for her – to this day I deeply admire her for that choice, especially now. I went through the journey with her and never imagined that at some time I might be on the other side of the story.
So why is this not something that we as the general public encourage? Is adoption more difficult to go through then abortion? I don’t know, but I would think emotionally it would be pretty similar, but physically it is different, but still that isn’t to say one is more difficult than the other (just one lasts longer).
I love the movie Juno, it puts such a positive light to adoption! It makes me cry every time. I am sure that a lot of it is because I am overly sensitive to anything of that nature, but I put myself in the situation and how, if the time came that adoption was my only option that there would be a self-less girl out there who would consider adoption – consider helping create a family.
This isn’t an option that Chris and I are actively pursuing, right now, we are more in the general infertility waiting stage, but for years and years I have had a strong opinion on adoption -CONSIDER IT! Not just consider it, but promote it every time we have a chance! Maybe its time I give Dr. Phil some advice???!!
What are your thoughts about adoption?